Saturday, December 5, 2009

He said yes then changed his mind a little too late??

My partner and I decided to try and have a baby, so we had unprotected sex mult. times. (I def. think I am pregnant) Well the other day he told me he changed his mind. And he didnt want to have a baby. What do I do. I mean its too late. And Im not getting an abortion or giving the baby up. We arnt really on talking terms right now because of this. So my question is what to do/what to say?



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Give him his space for awhile and don't bring it up until you know for sure. If you are pregnant, remind him that he agreed to having a baby when the two of you had sex. Its not like you tricked him. The stress of becoming a first time parent can be just as stressful on men as it is on women. Give him time to come around. If he doesn't, I wish you the best of luck in raising a child on your own. You don't NEED a man to help you raise a child, so if he's not gonna be supportive, stop wasting your time on him. Like I said though, hopefully he'll be able to clear his head and be OK with the idea of being a father.



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If you are pregnant, tell him. He'll have to get used to it. As you said, it's too late to change his mind if you are already pregnant.



Good luck!
is he your hubby?
Well that's too bad. It's too late now if you are pregnant to decide that he "changes his mind". A baby isn't some decision you can make on a whim. I would say, if you find out you're not pregnant, stop having unprotected sex and let him grow up a little. A baby isn't an item than can be taken lightly.
oh well....2 little, 2 late



DON'T PLAY WITH MOTHER NATURE
wait until you have a positive pregnancy test first before you do anything, let him have the silent treatment if he wants to act like a baby then treat him as such. Don't have an abortion and if he still doesn't come around then leave him cause he will be a deadbeat father anyway. He could just be scared at the prospect of being a new father.
hmmm... just tell him that your already pregnant and there is no turning back now tell him hes gonna have to get used to it or leave.. im a guy and i wouldnt mind having a baby i bet i want one more then my girlfriend would
he's a jerk..but keep the baby...gl
**** tell him and if he is a good guy he'll stick around if not...sorry...
Alot of them do this.. Actually alot of women do it to right before labor they say things like I changed my mind or I aint doing this... But they get through it.. He just is scared or someone put something in his head to make him change his mind. IF you are pregnant he will be ok he will just need time to get use to it again but if your not then be glad because then you know not to sleep with him again cause you already know how he will act if you do end up pregnant...
Can you say, Jerry Springer?
Make sure you're pregnant before causing any drama and then maybe move in with your parents for a week or so to get some space. If he isn't supportive it will make your pregnancy dreadful. And although he'll adore his child once it's here, it doesn't seem fair for him to step up when it gets fun. He needs to be there while you're going through the pregnancy. It's a scary and rough time on a woman. Good luck.
If you can't handle this yourself then you won't handle a baby.
that can happen a lot....the guys say they want one then back down. but if you are pregnant talk to him about it and let him know that you are not going to give the baby up for adoption or abort it. That you are going to have it and you guys need to find a way to work things out.
If he can't grow up and accept the fact that he is going to be a father, than you don't need him! Sure it will be hard, but he doesn't want the baby any way so how will it work out? It won't. Sorry. You should have thought of the possibilities...
Plan B
According to the law he is responsible for the child even if it was an accident , tell him its too late to change his mind. If you want to keep the baby, and he is not interested in parenting, get him to sign something that gives you full custody. He will still have to pay child support, but you wont have to let him take the baby. You should get legal advise asap, to protect yourself and your unborn child. Don't tell him about the legal advise, just keep it to yourself, only pull it out when you need to let him know. You don't want to get him thinking about getting his own legal advise. Maybe he is just scared right now, but you should be prepared for the worst case scenario.
I feel awful becasue i am pregnant 2!! Except that i am having twin girls that are both down syndrom. tell him that kids are great and that you are not giving up a life its not fair. say to him you said you wanted it.
if your pregnant tell him, if he doesnt like it there is the door
well it was wrong for him to change his mind on you if he wasnt totally for it. however you only said that you think you are pregnant. you might not be and then everything will be ok. my fiance and i decided to try and its been 2 months already and im still not pregnant. and we have sex almost every night. wait and see if you have your period or any other symptoms. if you do end up being pregnant then just tell him that you both made that choice and it happend and now he needs to step up and take that responsibility. you two will talk eventually. but you need to express to him that he did tell you yes he wanted a child and he did choose to ejaculate in you and that if he really wasnt sure then he shouldnt have sent you mixed messages. hopefully everything will work out for the best. but find out if you are for sure before anything else!
that is to bad for him he should have thought about that first! he has made his bed and now he has to lay in it. you should would wait and see if you are pregnant and if you are tell him and then tell him that he made the decision and that you were trying for this baby. if he chooses not to stay with you it is alright you can make it on your own plus he will have to pay child support.
I would not have sex with him anymore until he sees how ruthless he is being. He said he did want a baby. A baby is a precious special little person. The idea of having a baby can be overwhelming for a guy but they should think long and hard before giving such a answer. It sounds like the time between then and now got to him and he started second guessing his abilities. I think he would come around if you are pregnant but the fact that he played yoyo with the situation has to be hard for you and he needs to realize the situation it has put you in and how it has made you feel. If you are in fact pregnant I think you need to just come out and tell him you are. I would just tell him and walk away. Let him come to you apoligizing and saying whatever he wants to say. Let him reflect on the new situation. If he does not come around hun you will do just fine on your own! File for child support and be the best mother you can be! But it doesn't sound like this is the case to me. Wishing you the best....!
The exact same thing happened to me about 15 years ago. We only stayed together for 8 months after the baby was born and the whole thing was a disaster. My son was emotionally troubled and has gone back and forth ever since. All I can say is if you are both not on the same wavelength about the baby then is could be bad. If he did get you pregnant, he needs to step up and get over it. He may blame you and say it was all your idea. Consider your options whatever they are, and if you are not prepared to be a parent consider giving your child up for adoption.

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